I
heard the glass shatter. I realized that I shouldn’t have done that.
“Are
you okay?” my brother, Josh, yelled.
“Ummmm,”
I responded.
He
then came running into the laundry room. He saw the broken glass of the back
door. He looked at me, “What happened?”
“I
was mad and slammed the door closed. Then the glass just broke.”
“You know you
have to call mom, right?”
“I know. I’ll call her
later.” I went upstairs to my room. I was still pissed.
All throughout
my childhood I heard, “Think before you act.” I knew that I had to do this and
I usually did, unless I was angry. If I was angry there was no stopping me. You
couldn’t calm me down. I just had to find an outlet for my anger, and then be
left alone. What’s worse is it’s easy to make me angry. So sometimes a little problem
would set me off.
It isn’t always
anger that makes me not think. One time when I was younger, my brothers and I
were playing around. My twin Nick and I were trying to keep my older brother
out of our room, I was having fun. My brother found a walking stick and put it
in the space between the door and the doorframe. I should have stopped for a
moment, to think it was a bad idea to close the door. I was having too much fun
to think. So I pushed the door as hard as I could. The door snapped off of the
hinges. Out of fear, we decided not to tell my father. He found out anyways and
wasn’t too angry.
When I was 14
my brothers took a joke too far. This made me very angry. I walked out of the
living room and into my laundry room. I didn’t know what to do, so I slammed my
back door closed. The glass shattered. I ran upstairs to my room still very
angry. I just had to be alone. Later I went down to clean up the glass. I told
my mom later that day. She wasn’t mad; she just wished I had told her right
away.
About two years
ago I was wrestling with my younger cousins. They are both boys and were 9 and
7. They always liked wrestling with my brothers and me. We were having a lot of
fun. I had the eight year old, Stephfon, pinned on the ground in a headlock. He
called his brother for help. The older one, Jayfon, came over and hit me with
his elbow in my lower back. I apparently have a weak spot in my lower back and
it hurt, a lot. I stood up quickly. I didn’t really comprehend what I was
doing. I picked him up and dropped him on his side to the ground. The ground
was carpeted but it was still hard stone underneath. He screamed. He cried and
ran to my grandmother. She asked what happened. I told her I got hurt and lost
control. I couldn’t stop myself.
I have been
able to stop myself when I’m angry more often lately. While at this summer camp
I’ve been volunteering over the summer, we would take the kids to parks. One
day we took the 6 through 9 year olds to the same place. They decided that they
wanted me to chase some of them. Little by little more and more joined. It got
to the point where there was 20-40 of them versus my twin Nick and me. They
realized this shortly after I did, so the tables turned. They began chasing us,
when they caught me they held my arms. One little girl hit me in my lower back
as hard as she could. This made me angry, but instead of getting really mad I
just told her to stop hitting me.
It took
multiple times of being told “think before you act” before it finally stuck. I
still don’t have full control when I’m angry. Most of the time my brother,
Josh, holds me back until I shake loose and walk away. I am more understanding
when the person I’m angry at is much younger than me. I now understand that even
lessons that we learn as young children, aren’t always easy to follow.